Womanly things


Sometimes I get so frustrated with how anything associated with women is deemed frivolous and unimportant. Women’s fiction, women’s  cinema, women’s interests, women’s issues.

Being girly in common parlance means being into fashion and make up and skin care and interior decorating and having things match. Basically making all things including yourself pretty. There is nothing innately wrong with this it is just simply the assumption that this should be all a woman should want and could ever be interested in that is deeply problematic.It is just as problematic that ANYONE who is interested in these things is frivolous and stupid and womanish because that is what they are womanly.

I feel like that the way things operate right now is that it is awesome for women to like things that are traditionally associated with masculinity and that these things are ‘gender neutral’ and that this neutrality has freed us from having to be interested in silly traditionally womanly things, as no one would REALLY be interested in these things given the choice.

This is obviously not true and makes many women feel at odds with the mainstream feminist movement and also does nothing in terms of making socially constructed gender boundaries more fluid as it is OK for women to be interested in and to do more masculine things because they are ‘better’ but not for men to do the opposite because traditionally female things are ‘worse’.

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Posted on May 11, 2011, in Uncategorized and tagged , , . Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.

  1. I agree with this 100%. It sounds odd, but I feel like feminism won’t have succeeded until men feel comfortable taking on traditionally female-gendered activities… what we want isn’t necessarily only for women to be welcomed into men’s spheres, but for those “spheres” to be abolished completely.

    I also feel similarly when people say they support androgyny in appearance– which seems to turn out so that everyone just looks sort of like men. It’s tricky.

  2. So true! It seems that so much about gaining equality has been about making sure that women are equal to men, but there is a lot to be said for ensuring that men are equal to women too. Thank you for your comment!

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